Eating Disorders - We Know Early Intervention Is Key

Eating disorders - we know that early intervention is the key

At the start  of my eating disorder journey I felt I was in control and didn’t feel I needed help but when I was about a year into it, I woke up and felt I needed help, I first of all went to my mum and plucked up the courage to speak to her, she wasn’t very caring and her main response was just have control, just have one, then it went on to her and she dieted etc she said I looked good I didn’t look ill or underweight.  Roll on a couple of years later, and my mum was begging me to put on weight as the eating disorder had really taken it grip, I remember saying to her “I told you a few years ago I was ill and you didn’t listen”, her response was “you didn’t look ill”!  This is another misconception of an eating disorder, but they can affect anyone, any shape, gender, culture.  Anyone.

After I had spoken to mum and didn’t feel she was very helpful, I decided to go to my doctors.  I was extremely nervous about this, I remember I did it on impulse when I had enough I got an emergency appointment, as I thought, if I don’t do it know I never will.  When I went in, I started to get scared so when the doctor asked me what the problem was, I played it down “I have problems with my eating”, he just looked at me and said “You do realise this is an emergency appointment, do you want to lose weight”?

Suddenly I felt so stupid, OMG, I thought, he thinks I’m fat!

I stayed brave and told him no he was then compassionate, but this was just the start of the upheaval of getting help, and I feel I was one of the luckier ones as I did get help but it was always based on my BMI and I thought I only got a lot of help when it was dangerously low , which is wrong as if I didn’t feel like such a fraud to my mum or the doctor and got help earlier on then this situation would not have been so bad.

Here are some things to say to someone that has an eating disorder to make them realise they are not silly because it takes so much guts to realise you have a problem, and to your eating disorders dismay it would love you to carry on and everyday not getting help is a day too much!

‘I know it is difficult, but you are amazing and I am proud of you!’

‘I believe in you!’

‘I may not understand, but I am here for you if you, I can listen and help as much as I can’.

‘You are worth more than your eating disorder’.

‘I love you’.

I would have loved my mum to have said any of the above to me, remember being kind makes such a difference you never know what people are thinking and how it can affect their day.

 


“I had consistently been losing weight for more than 8 months and had become accustomed to eating very little. This triggered a return of my anorexia, after a 20-year period of recovery. SWEDA were able to offer me an appointment the very next day. When we met I was feeling very ill and frightened.I spoke to them about my fears, but then took the decision to go to my doctor on the way home. I was admitted to hospital within a few days.”

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